Knowing when to stop, for me, relates to the chapter about hammering things to a point. With moderation and paying attention, I?m more likely to stop at a ?natural? place. When I?m totally caught up in satisfying a desire, I?m much more likely to go overboard, and then suffer the consequences. (Like eating an extra-large hot fudge sundae, and then feeling miserable.)
Gain or loss, which is a greater bane? I find that being drawn to gain leads to a never-ending pursuit of desire fulfillment. The ante keeps going up in terms of what I want, and what I think I need. Loss, however, can turn me back to myself (unless I run from the pain, into trying for more desire fulfillment).
When I?m not content, it?s easy to meet with danger or disgrace, because I may pursue desire so much that I lose my head. Such as when I get upset with my wife, because she doesn?t wash my work water bottle when she washes the rest of the dishes, and I?ve already asked her 3 times. If I just get upset with her, I end up disgracing myself, making a sad situation, because I blindly pursued what I wanted. Instead, I can find contentment by just washing the bottle myself, and recognizing that we?re all imperfect.